Re: Another "Country" Heard From
Dan Vachon (drv(AT)ici.net)
Sun, 26 Oct 1997 10:44:16
At 09:28 PM 10/25/97 -0700, Blane N. Beckwith wrote:
>Dan,
>
> Please allow me to throw in my two cents in, if I may. As a
>general rule, I believe it is better to try to keep personal care
>separate from personal or sexual relationships. Believe me, this isn't
>easy for me to say, but I know from experience.
>
> In 1983, I had my first love/sexual experience with a female
>attendant. We fell in love, but the relationship ended very badly when
>she abandoned me when I was hospitalized with pneumonia. She apparently
>couldn't accept the fact I might die, and split without a word or
>goodbye. I was heartbroken. Sometimes even though it has been nearly 15
>years, I still miss her.
>
> Several years after years after this experience, I had a female
>attendant come onto me. Being flattered by her advances, I returned her
>effections and we started having an affair. Awhile later, she stole some
>money from me. It was then I found out she had a crack problem. Again,
>I was hurt!
>
> Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it is impossible to have a
>good love/sexual relationship with a caregiver (I know where it's
>happened), just very risky and a potentially bad situation. See ya!
>
>Blane
>:-)
>
Blane,
Yes, but to quote Shakespeare 'Tis better to have loved and lost than to
never have loved at all'? At least you have had two relationships. I
sympathize with you being hurt, but at least you have those memories. Also,
the fact that at least two women didn't recoil at the prospect of having
sex with you must be a great ego booster. See what I'm saying Blane? I have
NEVER, NEVER had such an experience. I have never been desired, no matter
the ulterior motive. Frankly, at this point, I would welcome any physical
attention for whatever motive.
Dan
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