I can relate totally to what you're saying! After my first woman
split, I went five years without any feminine "touch". Talk about
pressure! Then finally, I bought an "adult" newspaper that had names and
phone numbers of "escort services" and call girls in it. I called one
lady who sounded nice (she was!) and made an appointment for her to visit
me. I had a very nice time. If sex is your primary concern, prostitutes
can provide some welcome "company." Be careful though!
I've discovered getting sex is fairly easy. However
unfortunately, true love and romance is very elusive. My last
relationship ended quite badly a year ago. She had multiple disabilities
(lupus, RA, EI/MCS). I was very much in love with her. She was the
first disabled woman I ever was involved even though I've known many very
attractive disabled women. I was very optimistic and hopeful that the
commonality of being disabled might help ensure success this time.
Unfortunately, this belief was wrong!
Lately, I have been trying something different, personal ads on
the Internet. Currently, I have two women who are my "email pals."
Whether or not this approach ever bears fruit remains to be seen. It
will take patience. There are a lot of websites on the 'Net devoted to
singles and personal ads. There are even a couple for disabled singles.
You might want to give this route a try. Good luck!
Blane
:-)
On Sun, 26 Oct 1997 10:44:16 Dan Vachon <drv(AT)ici.net> writes:
>At 09:28 PM 10/25/97 -0700, Blane N. Beckwith wrote:
>>Dan,
>>
>> Please allow me to throw in my two cents in, if I may. As a
>>general rule, I believe it is better to try to keep personal care
>>separate from personal or sexual relationships. Believe me, this
>isn't
>>easy for me to say, but I know from experience.
>>
>> In 1983, I had my first love/sexual experience with a female
>>attendant. We fell in love, but the relationship ended very badly
>when
>>she abandoned me when I was hospitalized with pneumonia. She
>apparently
>>couldn't accept the fact I might die, and split without a word or
>>goodbye. I was heartbroken. Sometimes even though it has been
>nearly 15
>>years, I still miss her.
>>
>> Several years after years after this experience, I had a
>female
>>attendant come onto me. Being flattered by her advances, I returned
>her
>>effections and we started having an affair. Awhile later, she stole
>some
>>money from me. It was then I found out she had a crack problem.
>Again,
>>I was hurt!
>>
>> Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it is impossible to have a
>>good love/sexual relationship with a caregiver (I know where it's
>>happened), just very risky and a potentially bad situation. See ya!
>>
>>Blane
>>:-)
>>
>Blane,
>
> Yes, but to quote Shakespeare 'Tis better to have loved and
>lost than to
>never have loved at all'? At least you have had two relationships. I
>sympathize with you being hurt, but at least you have those memories.
>Also,
>the fact that at least two women didn't recoil at the prospect of
>having
>sex with you must be a great ego booster. See what I'm saying Blane? I
>have
>NEVER, NEVER had such an experience. I have never been desired, no
>matter
>the ulterior motive. Frankly, at this point, I would welcome any
>physical
>attention for whatever motive.
>
>
>Dan
>drv(AT)ici.net
>
>